This is going probably piss a lot of people off, but I am so passionate about this.
PS; also don’t read if you don’t like ‘foul’ language.
I can not fucking stand when people use the word ‘lucky’
Holy fuck, it fuels this fire within me that makes me want to explode.
“You are so lucky you don’t have to work in an office.”
“You are so lucky you have a husband that loves you.”
“You are so lucky that you can see the positive in everything.”
“You are so lucky you have that kind of money.”
“You are lucky you can deal with assault so easily.”
“You are so lucky you only get a period once a year.” (this one, phhhoooaaarrr. Watch me fucking go there.)
I AM NOT FUCKING LUCKY! I FUCKING CHOSE!
I chose not to work in an office. I chose to not stay with someone who wasn’t the man I intended to marry. I was not fucking born with a brain that said, “Oh hey, I am going to see the best in every situation because life is amazing.” I fucking CHOSE to work on MYSELF to allow myself to know my worth, know what makes me happy, and know what doesn’t. I chose to have a career that creates the money it does, to allow me to live the life I want to live.
I added the period thing in, because no, I didn’t choose to have it so irregular, but I fucking chose to WORK ON IT. TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE A HEALTHY BODY!
When women tell me I am so lucky for that, I don’t think they realise they are wishing their healthy hormones away. And if it hurts, well you have a choice to do what ever it takes to not hurt.
Every single thing in life, you have a choice. You can try and tell me that it isn’t true, I won’t fight back. Because you are at a point in your life where you are playing the victim in your life and are not ready to take fucking control.
Sometimes, we can not control what is done to us, (rape, miscarriage, death etc) But we can CHOOSE how to react and deal with it.
When you say someone else is lucky, you are literally telling yourself that you can’t have that or you can’t be happy either.
Why are they lucky? Do you think you can’t have it? Do you think they deserve it more than you? Are you really belittling yourself that much?
Which is fucking bullshit.
You have a god damn choice. Stop handing the control over to something or someone else.
Take some action, work on yourself and realise that you have a fucking choice. Always.
You can choose to change.
You can create the change you crave.
All you have to do is take the steps, and do the fucking work.
PS: feel free to share this if you know someone that needs to realise they have a choice. 😉